Ego. A substance/trait within a being that no matter how much you may deny, you harbor it. Ego can be defined as the way or perspective you view yourself, or the identity that you have given to yourself. It may be exaggerated, or it may be underestimated, but whatever it is, you still have it. Ego is, in fact, important to a human when speaking socically. To have a sense of self-preservation and to acknowledge your capabilities are very good traits to have.
But the main problem arises when it is inflated beyond your capabilities. An exaggerated ego will lower your charisma usually, meaning people may find it hard to appreciate your company and overall you'll just be a worse person. Ego is, to it's core, an element of one's personality. You may be good, evil, dorky, stupid, intelligent, or anything else. Whatever it is, each of these traits have ego by their sides. However way you manage to co-ordinate or manage your ego, if it is not taken good care of or misused blindly then you'll end up being, frankly, arrogant.
Arrogance is yet another trait of a human being. However, it is not an ego itself, rather, it is the manifestation of what your ego claims. It is to harbor a sense of superiority, to feel as if you're above anybody else, whether you're a deluded idiot or not. The main reason I write this is to inform you, or give awareness on how your ego and pride, although important to your character, may come back to whip you in the back.
They are necessary evils, yes, and it is very important to control them and keep them in check. But how do you do so? You can, of course, look at your self in the mirror and begrudgingly say;
"Woah. Why am I like this?"
And instead of kicking yourself, you should strive to improve. There are people out there who don't even control themselves. Their personality and brains are completely absorbed by their ego. They are no longer human, just a host for their parasitic pride. They chase validation, and are not themselves, not anymore. Their perspective of themselves are shaped by the opinions an irrelevant populous and are but a shell of what good character they may used to have.
You have to acknowledge yourself, and know that you are not perfect, because nobody is truly perfect, because everybody is imperfectly perfect. To have flaws and imperfections within yourself is what makes you human. If you claim to be higher than others because of some stupid reason then truthfully, you are the stupid one. Importantly, you need to be more grateful too.
To know and be aware that the world does not revolve around you is a good step in taming your ego. To "Be yourself" is cliche and I admit, does sound stupid but it's true nonetheless. Now, that is not to say you can do whatever you want for the sake of it. Be yourself, yes, but also strive to improve yourself, because although you may not be perfect, you could be better.
However, understanding your ego and what it wants is also important. I have not completely antagonized a being's pride in this, not at all. Ego is good for you, but only in a healthy amount. It is the foundation for your self-worth and self-confidence, meaning without it, you have nothing to prove. You lack the starting point, "motivation" to do something.
There is a fine line between confidence and ego however, because confidence is built on what you are but ego is what you manifest yourself as. In other words, confidence is key, ego is just meh.
Therefore I can now formally conclude this blog post by saying the following;
"You probably don't meet the requirements for what you view yourself as"
-me
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